WHY WAIT TO BE UNHAPPY
...when you can be unhappy now?
Hey, we all do it. We grab hold of the worst case scenario, hang onto it like a dog with a bone and - in the absence of any information to the contrary - we assume "it's" not going to work out: They're not buying what we're selling, we're not getting the job, the business, the raise, the guy, the gal - whatever. We're so efficient we decide to just go ahead and be miserable now. I mean why wait? Here's why: While we're assuming the worst, we deplete our energy, sap our enthusiasm for the next challenge and show up small to a world that was counting on the full size version. And guess what? Most of the time, our negative assumptions prove to be wrong! And it turns out that they never received our email, something happened in their family, the project was delayed (not canceled, delayed) or they just weren't able to pull the necessary people together to make a decision...yet. A woman in one of our "Stepping Into Your Power" workshops told us a story of how she'd been considered for an exciting promotion in her company and her hopes were high that she'd get the nod. The day came when she was supposed to hear the news... and went. Two weeks passed and still, no word. Her high hopes faded, then disappeared. Then she went into a funk. First, she railed at management: "They should at least have had the grace to call me with the bad news!" Then she railed at herself. "Whatever made me think I was good enough to get that kind of promotion in the first place?!" She made herself (and her husband) miserable. Even her little girl asked, "Why are the corners of your mouth turned down, Mommy?" And again, guess what? A week later, her boss called her in, apologized for the delay and announced that they'd decided not to give her the original position, BUT to give her something bigger and better! And what would have been a "good" promotion turned into a spectacular one. Nice, huh? But what about all those teeth-gnashing, fist-clenching, forehead wrinkling hours of anger and self doubt? What a waste! Of course, things aren't always going to work out in your favor, no matter how terrific you are. But lots of times they will. So don't make "not knowing" into "not getting!" Assume the best until you hear differently. And for heaven's sake keep the corners of your mouth turned up, okay? You never know who's watching...
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